Can We Just Let Older & Fatter People Study & Work Out in Peace, Drew?
I know Drew means well. And before you start reading this… I like Drew. He’s a good guy.
Here’s the thing though… we older, fatter people know that age and body fat don’t prescribe anxiety or low confidence when we’re trying something new and mentally or physically challenging.
Have you noticed that Internet kindnesses can sometimes take on a benevolent superiority?
What I mean is this. Even though Drew is aware of the assumption among his own peers that older and fatter people are less capable than they are (and he is consciously apologetic about that!), he isn’t aware of it as an assumption. He doesn’t seem to know that he and his peers made it up.
I get it though, I do. Because thin, young Drew isn’t fat or old, he assumes older, fatter people are more anxious than young, thin people are in the same challenging scenario – simply because of their age and body size.
I mean, it’s weird, right? They might be more anxious, but they might not be.
Lots of older and fatter people are involved in self improvement constantly throughout their lives. Who says they’re anxious trying something mentally or physically challenging? They might be determined and confident af, Drew.
Maybe you’re projecting your assumptions on them, Drew? Maybe that fat guy is a professional Sumo wrestler. Maybe he’s just a stocky guy, a former athlete, or a muscled donair lover with mid-life motivation you don’t yet understand.
Maybe that woman in your class is going to kick everyone’s ass around the room (once she figures out what the hell is going on, which BTW will happen quickly) because she’s a busy, laser-focused, and super life-smart at 38.
Maybe your assumptions are limiting you, Drew.
Drew’s a nice guy. But I wonder why he isn’t just minding his own studies, his own work out, and his own business.
What about that 30-something adult in college? What about those “fat people” working out at the gym? Do we need to single them out with our kind words? Do we need to use them to set examples for our judge-y peers?
When does it become awkward, even a bit weird? When does it start to feel condescending? Do they need your encouragement? Do they want it?
Just some food for thought, Drew.